The children are being bullied do you want to learn how to teach him x3210

The child was bullied do you want to learn how to teach him to fight their own children being bullied, now many parents attitude is: "people do not make me, I do not prisoners, if the person make me, I will." Because the weak child is unable to gain a foothold in the society of the law of the jungle, this point of view, do you agree? "A few days ago came back from kindergarten daughter language boa, said there was a little friend (boy) by hand deliberately hit her face, I asked her not to fight back, said she did not fight back. I said that you don’t tell me, out after a bully, remember to fight back, fight not to fight and win are two things. Lost again, I ask you to review, Dad I teach art is not fine, we will continue to practice; to win back I give you a victory, don’t complain that snitch thing, the girl didn’t know to listen to don’t understand, anyway, seriously said to me!" This is a post in the forum a few days before the fire, caused a lot of parents with have the thread like, this undoubtedly represents the kind of parents’ viewpoints: bullied, horse riding, children to cultivate the wolf and bloody, violence in bullying, uphold the principle of "people do not make me, I do not prisoners; if we are attacked, I will of prisoners" attitude, because of a weak child, it is unable to gain a foothold in the society of the law of the jungle. But there is another view: aggressive children win now, but to win the future? Like violence with an error to return another mistake, ring reported only wrong. When we want the child side kind of tolerance, while they do not teach violence with violence, contradictory? Today’s self-defense back, who can guarantee that violence does not become tomorrow? Goodness is not incompetent, tolerance is not weak, we should say no to violence". The children are the parents of the heart, sometimes wrong, are reluctant to fight, now even out of bullying others, the heart is not the taste one hundred thousand. In the face of the children’s parents are the small lakes, teach them to counter bloody violence with violence, or advocate tolerance, let the children forget? Today, we all give mom and Dad brought a very fruitful martial arts cheats teach children learn to fight"! Parents may wish to let the children learn to fight. Professor Feng Dequan children’s education experts believe that children can gradually adapt to fight through group activities, and will be a lot of knowledge from school, how to reduce the pain when beaten and how to regulate emotions, to avoid provoking each other, how to forgive each other." Children over the age of 3 can according to the situation between the two sides, fighting, and the teacher’s attitude, decide whether to fight back and escape, and the child or adult help to your enemy, please. "For young children, can come up with a way to escape or ask for help, it does not always mean cowardice, but sometimes witty, can protect themselves from harm." The children’s campaign, parents have three strategies: the first one, let the children understand "being bullied is useless, everyone will encounter". When the child cries, you should immediately stop working, squat down and children head, gently holding the child, this can let a child know that he is very important, and the elimination of child anxiety.!

孩子被欺负了怎么办 你要教他学会如何“打架”自家的孩子被欺负的时候,当下很多家长的态度是:“人不犯我,我不犯人,人若犯我,我必犯人。”因为懦弱的孩子是无法在弱肉强食的社会立足的,这个观点,你同意吗?“闺女语宝儿前几天从幼儿园回来,说有个小朋友(男孩儿)用手故意打了她脸一下,我问她还手没有,她说没有还手。我说那你别跟我说,以后在外面受了欺负,记住要还手,打不打和打不赢是两回事儿。打输了回来,我向你检讨,是爸爸我授艺不精,咱以后继续练;打赢了回来我给你庆功,别干那告状打小报告的事儿,闺女也不知道听没听明白,反正特认真地对我说好!”这是前几天在论坛上很火的一则帖子,引起了诸多家长的共鸣,纷纷跟帖点赞,这无疑代表了当下一类家长的观点:人善被人欺,马善被人骑,孩子要培养狼性和血性,在受欺负的时候以暴制暴,秉持“人不犯我,我不犯人;人若犯我,我必犯人”的态度,因为一个懦弱,忍气吞声的孩子是无法在弱肉强食的社会中立足的。但也有另外一种观点:好斗的孩子赢得了现在,但赢得了未来吗?以暴制暴就像是用一个错误来回击另一个错误,环环相报只能错上加错。当我们一面希望孩子善良宽容,一面又教他们以暴制暴,岂不是互相矛盾吗?今天的自卫回击,谁能保证不变成明天的暴力相向?善良不是无能,宽容不是软弱,我们应该对暴力说“不”。孩子都是父母的心头肉,有时候犯了错,都舍不得打一下,如今竟然在外被别人欺负,那心里真是十万个不是滋味。面对孩子们的小江湖,家长是该教会他们血性反击以暴制暴,还是提倡宽容,让孩子们以德报怨?今天,我们给所有爸爸、妈妈带来一套卓有成效的武林秘籍——教孩子们学会“打架”!家长不妨让孩子学会打架。儿童教育专家冯德全教授认为,“孩子通过打架可以逐渐适应集体活动,并从中学会许多知识,如何在挨打时降低痛苦、怎样调节情绪、如何避免激怒对方、怎样相互原谅等。”3岁以上的孩子可以根据当时的情境,对比双方战斗力,以及老师的态度,决定自己是还手、躲避、和这个孩子化敌为友,还是去请大人帮忙。“对幼小的孩子来说,能想出躲避或求助的办法,也并不总意味着怯弱,有时反而是机智的表现,能保护自己不受伤害。”孩子们的战役,父母有三招:第一招,让孩子理解“被人欺负不是没用的表现,每个人都会遇到”。当孩子哭诉时,你应该立即停下手中的工作,蹲下来与孩子平视,轻轻地抱着孩子,这可以让孩子意识到自己很重要,并且消除孩子的不安。同时对孩子表示同感:“妈妈知道你很难过、委屈。”待孩子情绪平复后再询问是怎么回事,确定是孩子受委屈之后,要给予安慰,让孩子明白被人欺负不是因为自己没用,每个人都可能遇到,让孩子尽快摆脱气馁和自我否定的情绪。第二招,观棋不语真君子,家长们在发现孩子们出现交往冲突时,首先要保持冷静,只要没有发生危险,就只做个冷静的旁观者,不出手干涉,不替孩子强出头,放手让孩子自己去处理问题。我们不可能时刻护在孩子身边,在你可控的范围内,训练孩子解决冲突的能力,才是制胜高招。第三招,教会孩子在发生冲突的时候怎样保护自己,并寻求帮助。想要让孩子们学会保护自己的深厚内力,可不在一朝一夕,家长们在平时的日常生活中就应该意识的培养。靠强健的体魄让孩子们面对劣势不会吃亏,不怒自威的自信人格能在关键时刻震慑恶势力。江湖有名言,出门在外靠朋友,每个孩子要学会交朋友,有自己的“圈子”,当你拥有一个强大的朋友“圈子”的时候,无论多调皮的同学在跟你动手之前还是要三思你“圈子”的威慑力。如果还是无法解决,那就只有最后一步,向老师和家长寻求帮助。“打架看似小问题,却影响孩子性格成长,家长不愿孩子当‘狼’,也不忍心他(她)当‘羊’,失去自我保护能力。”冯德全教授认为,不能简单地以“还手还是不还手”看待此问题,关键在于树立孩子自我保护的意识和引导孩子自己寻找解决的方式。“如何对孩子进行教育,怎样让孩子掌握好这个‘度’,尤为重要。”今日话题:你生孩子是为了什么?把你的想法发到我们微信公众号“Q宝先锋”的后台来,有机会获得精美礼品!相关的主题文章: